It's sure to happen. Sometimes you can't do anything to help it. There is bound to be a few spats when two separate people come together. But it's perfectly normal. It can be hard to get over a fight in a long distance relationship, so I've laid out a few guidelines below to help you through the situation.
During The Argument
Choose Your Words Wisely
Some people end up saying some terrible things when in a heavy argument. We understand that you might be mad at each other. And it may totally be their fault. And you may be a total angel too. But remember to choose your words thoughtfully. Take in some long deep breaths and think it over before you say anything. This can help to shield your significant others feelings and is sure to speed up the making up process.
Stop The Contact Until Both of You Are Cooled Down
It's no good talking to them while you are still upset with them. The best idea is to end all communication until you both have cooled down and are ready to make up with each other. No text messages. No phone calls. No Skype.
The Making-Up Process
Remember That It Doesn't Matter Who's to Blame
It's not about who's to blame for the argument. It's about the cause of the disagreement. If you disagree about something that they don't really like about you, then maybe it's time to change that something they don't like. A lot of people have an, "I can't change for anybody" attitude in a relationship. Take it from us, the ones that can and do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship with one another.
Remember You Are Both On The Same Side
If you're going to improve as a couple then you're going to have to learn how to make important decisions together. These decisions will shape your future. If you love each other, and are both active in the relationship, then you will both want to work towards the same positive end result. Never forget that you are each on the same side.
Send Them A Letter of Apology
A nice touch after you have made up is to mail your companion a letter saying that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Try to make your feelings about the argument known, but remember to let your lover know that you do not want to argue anymore. Possibly send a present along with it, or a photo that will help remind them of a joyful time you both spent together.
During The Argument
Choose Your Words Wisely
Some people end up saying some terrible things when in a heavy argument. We understand that you might be mad at each other. And it may totally be their fault. And you may be a total angel too. But remember to choose your words thoughtfully. Take in some long deep breaths and think it over before you say anything. This can help to shield your significant others feelings and is sure to speed up the making up process.
Stop The Contact Until Both of You Are Cooled Down
It's no good talking to them while you are still upset with them. The best idea is to end all communication until you both have cooled down and are ready to make up with each other. No text messages. No phone calls. No Skype.
The Making-Up Process
Remember That It Doesn't Matter Who's to Blame
It's not about who's to blame for the argument. It's about the cause of the disagreement. If you disagree about something that they don't really like about you, then maybe it's time to change that something they don't like. A lot of people have an, "I can't change for anybody" attitude in a relationship. Take it from us, the ones that can and do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship with one another.
Remember You Are Both On The Same Side
If you're going to improve as a couple then you're going to have to learn how to make important decisions together. These decisions will shape your future. If you love each other, and are both active in the relationship, then you will both want to work towards the same positive end result. Never forget that you are each on the same side.
Send Them A Letter of Apology
A nice touch after you have made up is to mail your companion a letter saying that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Try to make your feelings about the argument known, but remember to let your lover know that you do not want to argue anymore. Possibly send a present along with it, or a photo that will help remind them of a joyful time you both spent together.
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