Body language secrets that will help you understand what people are truly saying

By Daniel Dunder


Even when you do not say a word, folk can still learn much about what sort of person you are and what you are thinking and feeling. How do others do this? By studying your body language. The term body language refers to the messages you send out with your body gestures and face expressions.

It's quite important to learn non-verbal communication so as to truly hear what people are saying. Some communication gurus claim that between 5-10% of our communicaton is done through the words we speak. The rest of our messages are conveyed through our body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions. During your life you've been sending messages to others through your posture, gestures, and face expressions. When you were a child, before you learned how to talk, folks were looking into your small baby face, having a look at your gestures, and listening to your little cries and gurgles, attempting to decipher what sort of mood you were in, and what you were trying to say. And you've been reacting to the body language, voice tone, and expressions of the people around you all of your life, although you might have not been consciously aware of it.

What types of messages are you conveying to others with your body language? Does your body language inspire other folks to come up to you? Or do you subconsciously warn them to stay away? Take a moment to think about how you typically stand or sit when you're with people. What are you doing with your hands? Where are you looking with your eyes? Does your face express interest in the people you are with, or does your face stay a tense, hard mask? When you are standing or sitting, do you sometimes cross your arms across your chest? If this is your typical way of standing or sitting, how does one think people translate this position? Did you understand that the great majority of people will subconsciously interpret your arms crossed in front of your chest as a signal that you do not need anybody to approach you? Only the bravest souls are likely to come forward when you adopt this pose.

If you stand clumsily, with your chest slumped forward, your shoulders bending, and your eyes avoiding everybody else, folk are probably going to decide you are extremely depressed or totally low in confidence. They may fear that trying to talk with you will be an awkward experience. When you stand awkwardly, you don't project any sign you are assured in yourself, or that you've got any interest in the people around you. Instead you look like you are trying to disappear. Regardless of how desperately you want somebody to come over and befriend you, if your body language projects disinterest in others, it isn't highly likely that many people will try and start a conversation with you.

If some body language signals can scare folks away, are there signals that may encourage folk to stand up and come up to you? Yes, you can look much more receptive to others if you adopt body language that's open and non-threatening. Whether you are standing or sitting, try for a posture that is upright and alert, yet relaxed. If you happen to notice that your chest or shoulders are slumping, straighten up. Become aware about the way you are breathing. Does your breath move in and out smoothly? Or does it move with jerky tiny stops and starts? If you happen to notice you are holding your breath, or breathing in a shallow, jerky manner, this is an indication of nervousness. When you breathe shallowly, you've got to breathe more often, which can boost your appearance of nervous strain. Consciously tell all of the muscles of your body to relax. Use your abdomen to help you breathe smoothly and deeply. Let the bottom part of your lungs fill up with air as well as the top. What are you doing with your hands? If you get scared in social eventualities, you may feel that no matter what you do with your hands, it is the wrong thing. Many of us who cross their arms in front of their chest are possibly doing so at least partly because they do not know where else to put their hands.

Stay mindful of and concentrated on your surroundings and the people around you. If you find yourself tuning out your environment, you will begin to focus too strongly on your inner thoughts. This could speedily increase your stress to an exceedingly uncomfortable level. It's important to notice that even if you're not speaking, you're communicating. You want to ensure that you're sending out the message that you want folk to be receiving. Non-verbal communication is something worth brooding about, and consciously working on improving. It can be a incredible tool, reinforcing what. You want to say, or may lead to bewilderment it your non-vebal cues are not supporting the words exiting your mouth.




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