The Initial Approach is probably the most difficult and arguably the most important part of interacting with a new woman. If you have a bad opening, you will never be able to approach women effectively. So the way you open a woman will either get you in the door to initiate your game or it will get you a messy rejection.
The first thing you should do if you want to approach women successfully is to work on your looks, work on your confidence, handle your approach anxiety, and then learn how to successfully open women. The opening is not really complicated nor is it hard to pull off. There is basically only two major things you have to worry about. It's just that you have to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Have something ready to say
A beautiful woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many times before you came along. Most of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably used "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a cool phone." type of dull drivel. You need to distance yourself from the dozens of losers she has turned down and demonstrate high value by being amusing, intriguing, and/or different (in a good way).
Since you're about to puke just getting over approach anxiety and actually cold approach a woman, it is best to have a couple of canned openers that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and downright desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and pick some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that the majority of women prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so choose a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, again and again. I find the viewpoint asking ones to be quite natural, fluid, and girls react well to them.
2) Body language and confidence.
Remember, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38% is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7% is actual words. This means that what you say is just garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any girl and it will create a more friendly atmosphere. You also need to keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tonality and slower speech patterns, can speed up comfort, trust, and attraction.
Project negative body language! This means to face the front of your body away from her and just turn your head to her. Only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy), turn your body to her. This may seem to be anti-intuitive but it works and is based upon sound attraction psychology. By showing negative body language, you demonstrate high value since you don't come off as desperate or needy and are showing you do not require her attention or approval.
At the same time you will need to display confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you don't know how to display confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it! From here you can:
Throw in some time constraint methods such as, "Another thing before I go ..." or "I've just got a minute because I'm meeting my buddies, however I have to tell you..." and grab her number.
Shift into A2 phase which is where you hook them by showing off your high value with such things as story telling, gimmicks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the conversation, etc...
The first thing you should do if you want to approach women successfully is to work on your looks, work on your confidence, handle your approach anxiety, and then learn how to successfully open women. The opening is not really complicated nor is it hard to pull off. There is basically only two major things you have to worry about. It's just that you have to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Have something ready to say
A beautiful woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many times before you came along. Most of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably used "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a cool phone." type of dull drivel. You need to distance yourself from the dozens of losers she has turned down and demonstrate high value by being amusing, intriguing, and/or different (in a good way).
Since you're about to puke just getting over approach anxiety and actually cold approach a woman, it is best to have a couple of canned openers that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and downright desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and pick some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that the majority of women prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so choose a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, again and again. I find the viewpoint asking ones to be quite natural, fluid, and girls react well to them.
2) Body language and confidence.
Remember, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38% is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7% is actual words. This means that what you say is just garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any girl and it will create a more friendly atmosphere. You also need to keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tonality and slower speech patterns, can speed up comfort, trust, and attraction.
Project negative body language! This means to face the front of your body away from her and just turn your head to her. Only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy), turn your body to her. This may seem to be anti-intuitive but it works and is based upon sound attraction psychology. By showing negative body language, you demonstrate high value since you don't come off as desperate or needy and are showing you do not require her attention or approval.
At the same time you will need to display confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you don't know how to display confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it! From here you can:
Throw in some time constraint methods such as, "Another thing before I go ..." or "I've just got a minute because I'm meeting my buddies, however I have to tell you..." and grab her number.
Shift into A2 phase which is where you hook them by showing off your high value with such things as story telling, gimmicks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the conversation, etc...
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