Among the reasons approaching a beautiful woman is so difficult is the congruence test. A beautiful woman gets hit on as much as 15 times a day! Because of this, she needs a super efficient system to quickly filter out the monkeys from the possibles.
A congruence test is a test to see if you are really as confident as you appear to be, usually by throwing a fussy remark or insulting you in some manner. It is to see how you, their prospective date, reacts to a stressful stimulus. The reasoning is, if you can put up with her extreme opinions and emotions, you might be able to handle her in real life.
A congruence test can be offensive, dejecting, and just plain mean. It is designed to shake your self-confidence so that a poser would run away. These are some of the tests you can expect to be given:
"Do you always hit on girls at bars?"
"How much money do you make?"
"What kind of car do you drive?"
"How old are you?"
"How old are you?"
"Sorry, I'm not interested"
"I only talk to good looking guys."
and my personal favorite, "Who the HELL are you?"
Pretty brutal! If you experienced a congruence test, it feels like you have actually been kicked in the balls, then to the face, then stabbed in the belly ... Meanwhile, your ego plummets quicker than you can escape from her. Good news is that this is a filtering mechanism and doesn't always suggest the woman is not interested. There are 4 methods you can use to turn her rudeness into a flirtation and prove to her that you can handle a woman who is a little bitchy at times.
1) Flipping the script
Flipping the script means that you're using whatever she said as leverage and throw it back to them. If she says, "I only talk with good looking men." You can just reply, "Is that why you like me so much?" Or if she says "You're a little chubby, aren't you?" You can reply, "Yeah! We should really lose a couple pounds together." This will surprise and most likely amuse her. If nothing else, it'll soften her up.
2) Misinterpret
Misinterpretation means that any time a woman tests you for congruence, you "accidentally" misinterpret it as a sexual come on. If she says "Where'd you get those ugly shoes?" or "Do you always hit on girls at bars?" She's giving you a congruence test and wishes to rattle you a bit. Respond with "Look, I've just met you, don't come on to me too quickly." She'll end up being the surprised one, and you will have successfully pass her testing.
3) Ignore
Just brush it off. Continue with whatever strategy you had. Or, pretend she said something different. "Nah, I don't want to dance right now. Perhaps a little later though." Don't get caught up in her game; she actually just wishes to know that you will not be frightened away by it, she doesn't need a sparring partner.
4) Play along
Another method to surprise her and turn the conversation onto a more favorable track is to simply make the remark fun by playing along. "I might ask you the same!" meets her at her level of intensity and acknowledges her hesitation to engage you but turns the confrontation into something enjoyable.
That's it!
When you get over your approach anxiety, and approach a woman with all the confidence you can summon and she responds with a mean comment, it is easy to get dejected. Just bear in mind that she is testing you. She has done this to all the chumps that came prior to you. Yet you are not a typical chump, so don't hesitate, even for a moment, or she'll know that she has had an effect on you. As soon as she throws a congruence test at you, don't falter in your self-confidence and give your reply. Be confident, stay confident, and do not let her shake that self-confidence.
A congruence test is a test to see if you are really as confident as you appear to be, usually by throwing a fussy remark or insulting you in some manner. It is to see how you, their prospective date, reacts to a stressful stimulus. The reasoning is, if you can put up with her extreme opinions and emotions, you might be able to handle her in real life.
A congruence test can be offensive, dejecting, and just plain mean. It is designed to shake your self-confidence so that a poser would run away. These are some of the tests you can expect to be given:
"Do you always hit on girls at bars?"
"How much money do you make?"
"What kind of car do you drive?"
"How old are you?"
"How old are you?"
"Sorry, I'm not interested"
"I only talk to good looking guys."
and my personal favorite, "Who the HELL are you?"
Pretty brutal! If you experienced a congruence test, it feels like you have actually been kicked in the balls, then to the face, then stabbed in the belly ... Meanwhile, your ego plummets quicker than you can escape from her. Good news is that this is a filtering mechanism and doesn't always suggest the woman is not interested. There are 4 methods you can use to turn her rudeness into a flirtation and prove to her that you can handle a woman who is a little bitchy at times.
1) Flipping the script
Flipping the script means that you're using whatever she said as leverage and throw it back to them. If she says, "I only talk with good looking men." You can just reply, "Is that why you like me so much?" Or if she says "You're a little chubby, aren't you?" You can reply, "Yeah! We should really lose a couple pounds together." This will surprise and most likely amuse her. If nothing else, it'll soften her up.
2) Misinterpret
Misinterpretation means that any time a woman tests you for congruence, you "accidentally" misinterpret it as a sexual come on. If she says "Where'd you get those ugly shoes?" or "Do you always hit on girls at bars?" She's giving you a congruence test and wishes to rattle you a bit. Respond with "Look, I've just met you, don't come on to me too quickly." She'll end up being the surprised one, and you will have successfully pass her testing.
3) Ignore
Just brush it off. Continue with whatever strategy you had. Or, pretend she said something different. "Nah, I don't want to dance right now. Perhaps a little later though." Don't get caught up in her game; she actually just wishes to know that you will not be frightened away by it, she doesn't need a sparring partner.
4) Play along
Another method to surprise her and turn the conversation onto a more favorable track is to simply make the remark fun by playing along. "I might ask you the same!" meets her at her level of intensity and acknowledges her hesitation to engage you but turns the confrontation into something enjoyable.
That's it!
When you get over your approach anxiety, and approach a woman with all the confidence you can summon and she responds with a mean comment, it is easy to get dejected. Just bear in mind that she is testing you. She has done this to all the chumps that came prior to you. Yet you are not a typical chump, so don't hesitate, even for a moment, or she'll know that she has had an effect on you. As soon as she throws a congruence test at you, don't falter in your self-confidence and give your reply. Be confident, stay confident, and do not let her shake that self-confidence.
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