Aimed at helping you move from first date to engagement ring, these 10 pieces of advice are for both guys and gals. This is practical information you can use as you navigate life's muddy relationship waters.
Dating is hard â€" or at the very least it can be. Finding the right girl or guy for you means taking a few hazards, but there's never any reason to do anything you do not want to do or make yourself feel uncomfortable. Sure, you will have to step a touch outside your zone of comfort, but there isn't any reason to modify your ethics or compromise your morals to find the right person for you.
You wouldn't be pleased with someone that likes a made-up version of you rather than the real deal anyhow.
So here are 10 pieces of excellent advice that can benefit any guy or gal in the dating scene.
1. Trust your instincts. If you don't instantly click with someone, go on. There are too many fish in the sea â€" or guys in the bar or girls at the concert â€" to fool around on one that isn't quite right.
2. Take gifts without feeling any sense of duty. Do not let gifts make you uncomfortable. Unless it's an engagement ring, you are not under any requirement to someone because you accept a token of their love, sentiment or general liking of you.
3. Bear in mind that there are benefits to being single. So take advantage of alone time to read, meditate, think or rest. When the right person comes along, you'll lose privacy and "me" time â€" and you may never get it back.
4. Be cool. You can frighten off a potential lifetime partner by coming on too strong. Show the other person how much you like them, but don't be too fast to confess your love or voice your wishes. If it's the best person, there will be lots of time.
5. Don't drink on your first date. If you're judging somebody as a potential friend, you can need a clear head. And you've got to have your wits about you in case things take a turn south.
6. Don't wait for the other person to take the very next step. If it's time to move to the next step in a relationship, forget sex rules and social norms. Once you are certain of something, express it. You do not want him or her getting bored and moving on when you were looking to get closer.
7. Nobody's perfect, but some are a lot better than others. Decide early on to overlook little issues and look for personality as an alternative. Somebody of character is more important than someone that does not snore, don't leave things everywhere or doesn't whistle while walking.
8. If things begin to go wrong, be honest. The other person may feel exactly the same way â€" or might possibly be able to suggest a solution. Don't walk away mad unless you've made your case and didn't impress. Then, getting mad is perfectly acceptable.
9. Make sure you are okay with yourself before agreeing to settle down. Don't agree to move in or marry if you aren't assured in yourself. You do not want to let the other person mould you; instead you want to be a fully formed person moving in with another absolutely formed person.
10. Accept the ring if offered. If things are going well and you like the individual, don't be surprise if he â€" or she â€" moves at a different pace than you do. Accept the engagement ring if offered instead of turning it down and ending the relationship because the speed appears wrong. Simply because the other person moves faster than you doesn't mean the relationship should be abandoned.
It's all sensible advice, right? You may not be short of information when dating, but information this good is tough to find. It will prove useful to you as you move from dating to major relationship and on to wedding.
Dating is hard â€" or at the very least it can be. Finding the right girl or guy for you means taking a few hazards, but there's never any reason to do anything you do not want to do or make yourself feel uncomfortable. Sure, you will have to step a touch outside your zone of comfort, but there isn't any reason to modify your ethics or compromise your morals to find the right person for you.
You wouldn't be pleased with someone that likes a made-up version of you rather than the real deal anyhow.
So here are 10 pieces of excellent advice that can benefit any guy or gal in the dating scene.
1. Trust your instincts. If you don't instantly click with someone, go on. There are too many fish in the sea â€" or guys in the bar or girls at the concert â€" to fool around on one that isn't quite right.
2. Take gifts without feeling any sense of duty. Do not let gifts make you uncomfortable. Unless it's an engagement ring, you are not under any requirement to someone because you accept a token of their love, sentiment or general liking of you.
3. Bear in mind that there are benefits to being single. So take advantage of alone time to read, meditate, think or rest. When the right person comes along, you'll lose privacy and "me" time â€" and you may never get it back.
4. Be cool. You can frighten off a potential lifetime partner by coming on too strong. Show the other person how much you like them, but don't be too fast to confess your love or voice your wishes. If it's the best person, there will be lots of time.
5. Don't drink on your first date. If you're judging somebody as a potential friend, you can need a clear head. And you've got to have your wits about you in case things take a turn south.
6. Don't wait for the other person to take the very next step. If it's time to move to the next step in a relationship, forget sex rules and social norms. Once you are certain of something, express it. You do not want him or her getting bored and moving on when you were looking to get closer.
7. Nobody's perfect, but some are a lot better than others. Decide early on to overlook little issues and look for personality as an alternative. Somebody of character is more important than someone that does not snore, don't leave things everywhere or doesn't whistle while walking.
8. If things begin to go wrong, be honest. The other person may feel exactly the same way â€" or might possibly be able to suggest a solution. Don't walk away mad unless you've made your case and didn't impress. Then, getting mad is perfectly acceptable.
9. Make sure you are okay with yourself before agreeing to settle down. Don't agree to move in or marry if you aren't assured in yourself. You do not want to let the other person mould you; instead you want to be a fully formed person moving in with another absolutely formed person.
10. Accept the ring if offered. If things are going well and you like the individual, don't be surprise if he â€" or she â€" moves at a different pace than you do. Accept the engagement ring if offered instead of turning it down and ending the relationship because the speed appears wrong. Simply because the other person moves faster than you doesn't mean the relationship should be abandoned.
It's all sensible advice, right? You may not be short of information when dating, but information this good is tough to find. It will prove useful to you as you move from dating to major relationship and on to wedding.
About the Author:
Petra Bierberg is owner of a custom jewellery design company, she encourages people to move from dating to proposing, with a special custom jewellery designed ring at a deliberate pace, making sure a good one doesn't get away.
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