Most average looking guys have great difficulty meeting women because they feel self-conscious and build up a lot of anxiety when they have to go over and speak to them. Attractiveness is a self-fulfilling prophecy, if you don't expect women to like you, chances are they won't!
Okay so first things first. Kick that loser out of your head and just relax. It's just a woman after all. Stand up straight and be friendly and smile. Don't sweat it if she brushes you off, seriously. It's all an experiment anyway, right? So see how far into a conversation you can get with a woman before she loses interest, IF she loses interest. This is all about the learning curve, so it doesn't matter if the first woman you talk to blows you off. Just try again.
Why do you automatically presume that she is better than you, or even a nice person at all? Go over there and just be curious to find out more about the person you have in front of you. Don't base your self-esteem on the reaction women have to you in clubs, they don't know you at all! When an interaction happens, it could be that you will not get the response you were hoping for, but maybe you have learned something new about yourself, about women or about male-female interaction on the whole.
The truth is that if you totally shift your focus about what you are after, your anxiety will be greatly lessened and chances are you really will make a good impression. Women sense anxiety a mile off but if you come across as being simply relaxed and curious, they will be a lot more open to speaking to you.
Females are emotional beings and not very analytical so trying to have a technical conversation with her is going to earn you long blank stares. The aim is to connect emotionally with her. Yes I know, men and emotion are naturally compatible, especially in a social environment, but if you are attempting to connect with her at all, then this is the path you must choose. Sounds very "Star Wars", but go with what works when it comes to women and trying to get to know them. The aim here is to score her digits, not her scorn.
Having gotten her phone number is only the first step in the long run. Learning when to use her number and how, is the next step. Texting her from time to time is alright, but texting her daily several times a day may come across as stalker behavior...and she may slap you with a restraining order. So, learn more about her first by dating her a couple times and asking in depth questions about her to learn more about her. This way when you get the next level, texting her "naughty" texts won't backfire on you. I may land you in her bed.
Another thing that women shy away from is neediness. If you appear needy you will be the opposite of the alpha male she is looking for. You are "allowed" to show vulnerability but she wants to see that you already have established control over your weaker areas. What women don't want is a puppy dog. Puppy dogs end up in the friend zone as they are incredibly sweet but just don't get your heart racing!
Don't jump every time she calls or texts you. Be available yeah, but not at her beck and call. Keep her guessing a little and try not to swamp her with texts either. It's far better to have her question why you didn't answer her once or twice (say you were in a meeting or just got so busy, you forgot). You don't want to be under her thumb in any way, and quite frankly, she doesn't want to have that kind of hold on you anyway. That just proves you are weak and controllable. Another unsexy trait in any guy!
Last but not least, do not send "funny" messages that aren't really funny. Something that tries to be funny but isn't ends up being pathetic, a judgment you do not want to be in any way involved with!
So be kind and have a sense of self-worth, follow our interaction and texting guidelines and you will soon have your phone ringing and women asking you out!
Okay so first things first. Kick that loser out of your head and just relax. It's just a woman after all. Stand up straight and be friendly and smile. Don't sweat it if she brushes you off, seriously. It's all an experiment anyway, right? So see how far into a conversation you can get with a woman before she loses interest, IF she loses interest. This is all about the learning curve, so it doesn't matter if the first woman you talk to blows you off. Just try again.
Why do you automatically presume that she is better than you, or even a nice person at all? Go over there and just be curious to find out more about the person you have in front of you. Don't base your self-esteem on the reaction women have to you in clubs, they don't know you at all! When an interaction happens, it could be that you will not get the response you were hoping for, but maybe you have learned something new about yourself, about women or about male-female interaction on the whole.
The truth is that if you totally shift your focus about what you are after, your anxiety will be greatly lessened and chances are you really will make a good impression. Women sense anxiety a mile off but if you come across as being simply relaxed and curious, they will be a lot more open to speaking to you.
Females are emotional beings and not very analytical so trying to have a technical conversation with her is going to earn you long blank stares. The aim is to connect emotionally with her. Yes I know, men and emotion are naturally compatible, especially in a social environment, but if you are attempting to connect with her at all, then this is the path you must choose. Sounds very "Star Wars", but go with what works when it comes to women and trying to get to know them. The aim here is to score her digits, not her scorn.
Having gotten her phone number is only the first step in the long run. Learning when to use her number and how, is the next step. Texting her from time to time is alright, but texting her daily several times a day may come across as stalker behavior...and she may slap you with a restraining order. So, learn more about her first by dating her a couple times and asking in depth questions about her to learn more about her. This way when you get the next level, texting her "naughty" texts won't backfire on you. I may land you in her bed.
Another thing that women shy away from is neediness. If you appear needy you will be the opposite of the alpha male she is looking for. You are "allowed" to show vulnerability but she wants to see that you already have established control over your weaker areas. What women don't want is a puppy dog. Puppy dogs end up in the friend zone as they are incredibly sweet but just don't get your heart racing!
Don't jump every time she calls or texts you. Be available yeah, but not at her beck and call. Keep her guessing a little and try not to swamp her with texts either. It's far better to have her question why you didn't answer her once or twice (say you were in a meeting or just got so busy, you forgot). You don't want to be under her thumb in any way, and quite frankly, she doesn't want to have that kind of hold on you anyway. That just proves you are weak and controllable. Another unsexy trait in any guy!
Last but not least, do not send "funny" messages that aren't really funny. Something that tries to be funny but isn't ends up being pathetic, a judgment you do not want to be in any way involved with!
So be kind and have a sense of self-worth, follow our interaction and texting guidelines and you will soon have your phone ringing and women asking you out!
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